For Girls In India, What’s In A Name?

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26 Apr 2021, 6:56 am

There is a sense of excitement in India's Patuka village — adults and children look curiously assigns with the names of daughters are hammered outside several homes. It is a novelty in a village where patriarchal mindsets have long held sway. As Mubin Sumssu poses proudly with his family after the name of his 14-year-old daughter is posted outside his gate, he envisions a new future for her. "I hope she studies well, progresses in life, does a good job, and makes a name for herself."

This is not the life that girls can traditionally aspire to in this Muslim-dominated village, which lies in one of the country's most backward districts in the northern Haryana state. Many girls do not complete school and their lives revolve around household chores and looking after siblings from an early age. Most are married off young.

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Some families in Patuka village in Haryana state are posting nameplates of their daughters as part of a campaign that aims to change patriarchal attitudes and empower women.

The nameplate campaign, called "Daughter's Pride Festival," hopes to make a difference by persuading village families to treat girls on par with boys. The aim: Names of girls plastered outside doors will carry the winds of change inside homes that continue to be ruled firmly by men.

The head of the village council is a 23-year-old woman, Anjum Aara — laws mandating female participation in local bodies have brought women like her to prominence. More educated than most girls in the village, Aara has been emphasizing the importance of educating girls since she came to Patuka after her marriage.

She is optimistic that the latest campaign will raise consciousness about the need to empower women. "It will make people understand that the daughter is the identity of the family," Aara said. "They will be inspired to educate girls. Those with negative thinking about this will become more positive."

The nameplate campaign, called "Daughter's Pride Festival". VOA

Patriarchal mindsets

It is not an easy goal in places where women traditionally never had a voice. One village woman approached by a reporter for her reaction to the campaign refused to speak without her husband's permission. The girls whose names have appeared outside homes are shy and appear to have a limited understanding of its significance. Nonetheless, the man spearheading the campaign, Sunil Jaglan, is optimistic that such steps will slowly usher in social transformation. The nameplate campaign is part of a model he followed in his village, Bibipur when he was its head. It has now been adopted by the government in scores of villages.

Jaglan says it is not easy to persuade men to put their daughters' names outside homes in villages with deeply entrenched customs. He points out that virtually no women get a share of the parental property despite laws granting them equal rights. Terming the campaign a "mind-strike," Jaglan says that "this is a symbol to make people understand that putting the man's name is not enough. The woman also lives there. She also has an equal stake in the home, in the property, in the village."

The initiative cuts across religious communities in a country where patriarchal mindsets prevail among both the majority Hindu community and minority Muslims. About 20 kilometers down a road that cuts through fields blooming with the golden mustard crop, 25 out of 700 homes in another village boast of nameplates with their daughters' names. Alipur is more prosperous, but traditional mindsets rule here as well — women automatically cover their heads when they see men.

The initiative cuts across religious communities in a country. VOA

Skewed gender ratio

In this Hindu-dominated village, the campaign is addressing another challenge: a skewed gender ratio. In Alipur, as in thousands of other villages, the number of girls dwindled in recent decades due to illegal sex-selective abortions. The practice, known as female foeticide, has flourished in a society that traditionally prefers boys. Nobody knows that better than Mahesh Jangra, whose home flashes the name of his 10-year-old daughter, Dipti. Growing up in Alipur, he saw many more boys than girls in his village. But he says the imbalance has brought an awakening.

"Now people realize that who will the boys marry if there are no girls?" Jangra said. "First everyone gave priority to sons, now we want to treat sons and daughters equally and put the daughter's name ahead." That is why he willingly put his daughter's name outside his door, instead of that of his 15-year-old son.

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So far it is the more affluent families like that of Jangra that have opted to post their daughters' names. But as they are usually the trendsetters in the village, the hope is that others will follow suit. Komal Kalonia, a 19-year-old college student, is one of the few girls who has received a good education. She says her family did not need any persuasion to put her name outside. Kalonia feels the nameplate will send a message.

"When a passerby sees this, it will encourage them to do the same and take their thinking a step ahead," she said. As such campaigns make a mark, the state's gender ratio has improved from 834 girls for 1,000 boys, according to the 2011 census, to 914 last year. It will need a lot of perseverance to achieve women's empowerment, says Jaglan, but the hope is that the names of girls being displayed outside doors will herald a brighter future for girls. "I cannot say everybody's mindset has changed. But if families agree happily, then the message we are giving through these nameplates will ultimately percolate down." (VOA/SP)